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August 4, 2009

The fair sex?

Women are the fair sex? Women are the weaker sex? Women are the dumber sex? Just where did these ideas ever come from? Once upon a time, before men figured out that they were the reason women had children, women were the most important members of primitive tribes. Once the men got the idea that it was themselves alone who could father a child and know it was their own child, the importance of the woman fell. In order to make sure the child born was yours, one had to keep his female from being able to mate with any other male. Thus the idea of ownership of women by males. Seeing how any male could bring forth a child with any female, it made the male the now important one. One could only carry on the lineage through the male seed. The female now became the second sex, the one who really didn’t matter, for the male could continue his line with any female.

Today we know that more male children are born than females, but females survive better. For centuries males died earlier than females, of course now that may not be quite so true. The stress of life is much more equal now. Men are usually  much stronger than women when it come s to physical strength, so the label of the weaker sex comes into being. But it is known that women have a higher pain tolerance than men, as it is said, if men had to bare the children, the human race would die out. Men withstand pain by being macho about it. Women do it naturally.

Dumb women, just can’t understand the world, let us men who do run it. Right! Just another way men have tried to keep the female as the second sex in this world. Even in religion, women are considered less than men. Why? It gives validity to what men do. God made man first, so man is the most important. If god made man in his image, then god must be a male.  But why does a god who is the only god have to have a sexual identity? What point is having a male god if there is no female for him? If a god impregnates one of his children, is he a sexual deviant?  Any way, keeping women ignorant helps keep them in their place.

But why did  man have to make women second class people? Because deep down man knows he is just a weird copy of the female. The nipples thing, men have them but don’t need them, so why are they there? Always thought the creation story would have made more sense if Adam was made from Eve’s rib, that would at least account for the nipple thing in some way. Men know that females drive them crazy, they have to have one or more than one. It is women who give men their driving force to do things in the world.Women want the best provider to keep themselves and their children alive and well, so the man must do that if he wants a woman at his side. I think men are ashamed of their need for women and take it out on them for making them do things. I some times think that rape is just an extension of that feeling, the need to prove that the male is more important, the dominant one of the species. It is part of the need to keep the female in her place.

When it comes to listening to the way men talk and the way women talk, it is the female is who much more open, more vicious in comments about other people, more open about sexual feelings. Hell, in every way women are just more than men. Women communicate better than men, part of the reason they tend to be the child rears in most all of the animal kingdom, plus they are the ones who nurture the children. Any male can father a child, but only a mother can really raise one.

Well enough of my ramblings. The end idea is that I think man is the weaker and the second sex of the world, not woman. I have to wonder why it took so long for women to get the vote in this country, wonder why it is alright for men to have as much sex as they can get and women are labeled bad for the same feelings, the double standard. Why the country had to vote for women getting as much pay as men for the same job? How long is it going to take for humankind to grow up and see the world as it really is? A very long time I am afraid, as long as we have religions that keep women in a second class position. It is hard to argue with what people see as a gods plan, for who wants to argue with their god? After all the Bible says god said to Eve, “he shall rule over you” and god blamed Eve for mans exit from Eden, so do men still believe it. Even with the first so called people, it was woman who made man do things. Without the female, men have no reason to be. True it is the same for women, for without men they have no reason to be.

A strange after thought. There is a species of fish, that when dominant male dies, the dominant female turns into a male to take it place. Female into male, just the way I think it happened way back in the dawn of life on this world.

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July 28, 2009

Pain of belief

Just posted  at blogher and got to thinking about what I had to say about christian hypocrisies and a person I knew many years ago who went to therapy because she had big problems with her faith and what she felt and wanted to do. Now this young woman was brought up as a Catholic and believed all of the things she felt and wanted to do would condemn her to Hell. The world in the late 60’s and early 70’s was the time of hippies and free love and free thought, time to question everything there was about the life we were living. She wanted to be free to partake of this new world, but she felt so bad every time she did that it was driving her crazy with guilt. I always thought one was supposed to feel good about believing in a god, but here was just one case where belief caused pain. I know there are many more people like her out there in the world, for I have met many, shall we call them ex-catholics, who gave up that belief system for one reason or another. Most did not stop believing in a god, just the one the Catholics were pushing. I am glad to say that I keep hearing little tidbits that the Catholic Church is starting to open up its thought pattern about the world.

I just had a thought on the pain of belief. I knew my mother for 40 years and I never knew what she believed about god or gods, the subject never came up that I can remember. But when I joined the Navy at 17 and she had to sign the papers saying I could, she put down that my religion was one of the christian faiths. I do not remember which one, but I did ask her why she did that. She said that it just seemed like a good idea so no one would bother me about our lack of religion. I guess she did not want me to feel any pain of religion by not having any. Strange that while in boot-camp, going to religious services was mandatory for all. I wonder if I had had no religion on my papers if I could have gotten out of it? As it was, by taking the watch for others who wanted to go, I only had to go twice in the 3 months I was there. Odd as to why I remember that. I guess my personality disorder was active then and (hell it was from birth really) getting out of having to something I did not want to do meant something to me.

I do not know what happened with the young woman I was talking about, I hope she resolved her problems and lived a happy life one way or another. But I brought it up to show that having faith in the fairytale of god and gods is not always a good thing for some people.

July 6, 2009

Love Poem 8

Filed under: Last Lost Love 2 — Tags: , , , , , , , , , — dansideas @ 10:38 pm

LOVE POEM 8

I laughed when my Mother at
The age of 65 acted just like
A school girl in love.
Now at 47 myself I find I am
Not acting much different than
A school boy myself.
What is it about new love
That brings out the child in us?
C.D.RANSOM

July 3, 2009

Lost Trust

Filed under: Closing Poems — Tags: , , , , , , , , , — dansideas @ 10:04 pm

LOST TRUST

What is it I seek in this
World of love?
I know not.
The ones who seem to
Call my heart are not
The ones who do my
Soul any good.
The ones who are good
In my soul I do not want.
Do I still not know
Enough to find one who
Can be both?
Again I ask,
What is the key to my
Locked door that I may
Open it and find love
And end my loneliness?
I watch men who abuse
Their women and still
Manage to keep their
Love alive.
While I who do not
Must go unloved by
Any who stir my
Heart, soul and loins.
Do I still seek that
Love I needed from my
Mother?
I have had her by
Proxy and it was both
Good and bad.
Good in the fact that it
Was the happiest six
Months of my life.
Bad in the fact that I
Learned that I did not
Really like the person
That my Mother was.
Was this a lesson that
I really needed to learn
About?
It does not seem to have
Changed whatever it is
I seek in a woman.
The most it has done is
To have given me the
Distrust of people.
For I no longer believe
What people say they
Are or what they will do.
C.D.RANSOM

June 11, 2009

stepmother

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mother-in-law

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mother

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great-grandmother

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grandmother

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